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 In This Week’s Article: How visualize the process of achieving your goals

Usually goals start in the dream or visualization phase. You start to imagine what the journey to achieving your goals is actually going to look like. There are 3 ways in which you might picture your route ahead!

Route 1:  FANTASY – You might have a day dream about what it will be like to achieve your goal! In your imagination the road is beautiful, smooth, and safe. It is a road filled with absolutely no troubles, setbacks or obstacles. You won’t lose anything by working towards this goal and everyone will not only be understanding they will be cheering you on! Anytime you need to take action you will be full of motivation and always be able to breakthrough and take action!

The Easy Road

The trouble with this approach: You don’t think that it is going to be challenging to reach a new level. When obstacles show up and you have no plan for overcoming them you might doubt yourself and quit, or use some cop out like “well it wasn’t meant to be.” When loved ones and friends make you feel guilty for skipping on time with them to study, work or exercise you slip back into old ways because you are afraid to disappoint them and lose their love and connection.

Route 2: NIGHTMARE – You could be one of those people who think working on something for yourself or striving for more is actually going to strip you of everything you know and love. You imagine the road to this new goal as scary, dangerous and potentially even life threatening. The process is basically the hood at midnight as far as you’re concerned! Even if you make it out alive your loved ones might not. If you really go for this goal people may judge you, lose respect for you, or even completely walk away from you.

The trouble with this approach: The biggest problem with going straight to the worst case scenario is the path seems so daunting and scary that you never start. You would have to have an incredibly powerful why to move through all of these barriers. When you make out things to be harder or scarier than they actually are, your mind is building barriers between where you are and where you want to go. If you do manage to start taking action towards your goal keeping consistent will be darn near impossible. Everytime struggle shows up you will convince yourself that you were right and this difficult path isn’t worth the sacrifice.

Route 3: REALITY – Lastly people can choose to imagine what the REAL road to success will be like. Chances are it won’t be easy. There are going to be challenges, struggles, obstacles and critics. Possibly the toughest part to swallow is that the toughest critics will likely be the people closest to you. Your growth and success will make others close to you uncomfortable, but if they love and support you over time they will become more understanding. When you are truthful to yourself about the process you can anticipate setbacks and create a plan for them. Even if something comes up completely unexpected it doesn’t have to derail you.

Trouble with this approach: Achieving something you have never done before is not easy. No matter what or how you are visualizing the future, it is simply an exercise that helps you anticipate how you will act and respond to different situations. The key is to have strategies and a plan so you are responding to issues not going through the motions and reacting! There will still be risks, there will be screw ups and failures. You might have to only buy groceries on 15% Tuesdays while working 60 hour weeks! Just because the road to victory isn’t always a sexy one that doesn’t mean that it isn’t worthwhile!

Each of these strategies have their place and you might be programmed to lean towards one more than the other. Fantasy is great for imagining where you want to be in 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, but after you have the clarity of your destination you need to quickly shift your focus to the path in front of you and get real about what needs to happen next. Even if your imagination drifts to the worst case scenario that can be useful information too. It can add to your action plan. It can help you set boundaries and investigate your fears. Our nightmares are our comfort zones begging us to stay where we are. They are meant to be proven wrong not listened to! Think of your disempowering thoughts as a fierce rival that needs to be proven wrong!

Something I hear a lot from people is that they don’t know where to start or what they even want. In order to have a fulfilling life, we need to be working towards a better tomorrow. If you need help figuring out what that brighter tomorrow is reach out for a free strategy session! 

Cheers to your Success and Until Next Time – Keep Making Progress!

– Bonnie

Personal Coaching

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